Is this the reason Nicole Kidman didn't get custody of her kids?
I wonder what Nicole Kidman is doing this morning. Is she thinking back to her own divorce? To the time when she lost custody of Isabella and Connor? Has she put in a call to them to see how they are dealing with their dad's divorce?
Like most people gobbling up the TomKat stories, I can't help wondering what her take is on the split. And the thing that really intrigues me is what really went on with the custody arrangements of Isabella and Connor. Nicole doesn't talk much about the teenage children she adopted with Tom Cruise but she recently admitted that her two oldest kids chose to live with their father -- and that the decision was tough on her.
"They live with Tom, which was their choice," said Kidman of her daughter Isabella and son Connor. "I'd love them to live with us, but what can you do?"
But was it really their choice and was the choice made within the confines of Scientology where the chiildren and the parents have equal standing?
Now that Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes have managed to agree to a divorce settlement people are looking closely at Scientology (a religion that uses some pretty out-there methods when it comes to bringing up a child) because, by many accounts, that's what seems to be at the heart of their split.
These are just some of the things that we know that Scientology advocates around parenting
HUSH: According to Scientologyparent.com, the church advocates a "silent birth," which means "creating a calm birthing environment, without those in the presence of and child talking. The reason for this is to protect both mother and child from adverse spiritual effects of the birth experience."
BREAST ISN'T BEST: Rather than breast- or formula-feed, Suri drank a bottle filled with barley water, milk and corn syrup, according to Us Weekly.
GROW UP!: A source told Us Weekly Scientologists believe parents should "treat" kids like grown-ups," which may explain why Suri was often seen in high heels or wearing lipstick.
GIRL (AND BOY) POWER: Time magazine reports that kids raised in the church of Scientology are given "a tremendous amount of responsibility and are allowed to make significant decisions; some are even able to decide when to start formal schooling. If finances permit, they attend one of about 50 Scientology schools in the U.S. or receive religious tutoring that supplements public-school education. In theory, parents help construct a self-contained world for children, so all their teachers -- including dance instructors and soccer coaches -- ideally practice Scientology."
TEACH YOUR CHILDREN: Cruise reportedly had his children with Nicole Kidman home-schooled by Scientologists, and wanted the same for Suri, while Holmes wanted Suri to have a more traditional school experience. "They fought over schools," a source told US Weekly, adding that Holmes "wants to be in charge of how Suri is being raised and didn't want her to have an exclusively Scientology education."
KIDS AND PARENTS ARE EQUALS: Tad Reeves writes on ScientologyParent.com that children should experience an "exchange" with other family members. "Parental-child relationships are sour, really, only for one good reason," he quotes Hubbard as writing. "And that is because the child cannot contribute equally to the parent contributions. This demonstrates the child to be much less powerful than the parents; it makes him -- puts him in a bad way."
Would you be able to mother your own children within these parameters? Does it give you any more sympathy towards Nicole Kidman as a mother? Does it explain how she HAD to let them go?