SEALED SECTION: Sex dreams decoded
Have you ever had a sex dream starring someone other than the guy you're sharing a bed with? If so, don't worry--it doesn't mean you want to cheat. Instead, the person you're dreaming about usually signifies what's going on deep in your psyche. "If we pay attention, there may be something we can learn from our dreams," says marriage therapist Sharon Gilchrest O'Neill, author of A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage. "Maybe there's something missing in our lives, or maybe there's a problem in our relationship we haven't wanted to think about." Here are some of the most common sex dreams and what they really mean.
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Probably not, says Loewenberg. Dreaming about getting it on with someone who has the same equipment as you indicates pride in your womanly attributes. Girl-on-girl dreams are particularly common during pregnancy, when the body is in uber-feminine mode. If you have this dream, think back to what you did the day before. Were there any particularly female-centric accomplishments, such as nursing a sick child back to health? Your dream is more likely a celebration of that achievement than an indication of any latent sexual desires.
Don't stress yourself by taking a dream literally--the person you're having sex with symbolises something going on in your life, not a secret crush. "The dreaming mind can show you what you lack in your life, and sex symbolises your desire to bring that quality into yourself," says Loewenberg.